In this world of discouragement and strife, hope is always a welcome addition to anyone’s existence. With lucked-out creatures everywhere, people need others’ stories to learn from and be inspired by.
You’d think Shelley Lubben had no hope of ever having a better life, if you met her before she was transformed by the God that she knows. But from porn star to the woman of faith that she is today, you would never believe the transformation she underwent… Until you see it for yourself.
I had come across her life from a YouTube video of her interview with 700 Club. I hopped on over to her website, and I found that she had a blog. I just had to tell y’all about this blog, because I know that if people learn that even a porn star, who has had a seriously mottled life, can change, so can you. And the person sitting beside you. :p
Excerpt from Shelley Lubben’s Website:
Shelley Lubben is a mother, a fighter for truth and survivor against all odds. Shelley is also a former porn actress fighting tirelessly against pornography which affects most of the world in a destructive way. She and her husband Garrett recently founded the
Pink Cross Foundation in January, 2008.
After eight years of hard recovery from the trauma of the sex industry, Shelley is on a mission to smash the illusion of porn and to help people transform their lives by providing powerful resources to equip people to live Champion lives.
Shelley really wants to warn America what porn’s mission is:
To completely destroy you and your family through its ability to deceive you and lure you to buy into the lie.Some of porn’s lies:
Porn doesn’t hurt anyone. But the statistics are clear. According to comScore Media Metrix, 71.9 million people visited adult sites in August 2005, reaching 42.7 percent of the Internet audience. At $12 billion a year, the revenues of the porn industry in the U.S. are bigger than the NFL, NBA and Major League Baseball combined. Worldwide porn sales are reported to be $57 billion.To put this in perspective, Microsoft sells the operating system used on most of the computers in the world (in addition to other software) and reported sales of $36.8 billion in 2004.
Pornography is not only highly addictive material but also promotes lies about women. “Porn,” Shelley says, “exploits and devalues women. Porn converts women into objects rather then people with feelings and opinions of their own. Even soft-core pornography portrays women as sex objects who exist only to give sexual satisfaction to men. They are “pets” or “playmates” valued only from the neck down. Many porn addicts now admit they find it hard not to view women as chunks of meat because of viewing pornography.”
Another lie the porn industry wants you to believe is that we porn actresses love sex. They want you to think we enjoy being degraded by all kinds of repulsive acts. Read the excerpt from my book below “The Truth Behind the Fantasy of Porn”:
Many believe the widespread fairytale that women enjoy making porn movies but in reality there are no happy endings for the women of porn. Women do NOT enjoy making porn movies and a closer behind-the-scenes look will show you several reasons why.
In the world of hardcore sex, an average day on the set for a porn actress is a long and tedious process. Women are told to come in around 8 am for makeup but it’s only to make sure porn actresses arrive on time to work. Porn stars have a habit of arriving late because they’re often hung over from drugs or alcohol from the night before.
After make up, porn actresses usually wait around long hours until it’s their turn to do their scene. Some scenes take an hour and some take several hours to film. It really depends if the male actor in the first scene could “perform” or not. It also depends if female actresses have to stop the clock because they can’t handle the pain of a hardcore sex scene.
While waiting around, jaded porn performers usually end up in the rest rooms with bottles of alcohol and lines of speed or outside in their cars for a heroin fix or gathered in the back yard with other actors to smoke marijuana.
To add to the mind-numbing process, women are never able to experience sexual pleasure because of the continuous cutting during sex scenes. In the background the director constantly yells, “cut” and the flow of action is interrupted in order to get a better shot, adjust lighting or to wipe up bodily fluids. Repeatedly pornographers stop the scenes and ask actors to “freeze” in position during very hardcore sex acts, which causes great physical and emotional pain for porn actresses.
I speak from personal experience when I say to be in the middle of a hardcore sex act with several actors at the same time and told to “freeze” in position for several minutes while lighting or cameras are adjusted is extremely painful and degrading. It’s also very humiliating when scenes are stopped in order to wipe up bodily fluids such as semen, feces and blood.
Despite the fact that women do not enjoy making porn movies, they continue to lie to their fans and proudly insist they enjoy making porn movies. Of course they do. They get paid hundreds and thousands of dollars to lie because this is their occupation. Porn stars are paid professional liars who know how to “act” and they do it well. In fact, because porn stars spend a great deal of time in front of the camera and never step out of character, they usually have greater acting abilities than mainstream Hollywood actors.
I used to brag endlessly to fans and pornographers about my extreme “Italian” sex drive and how I loved making porn movies. I would go on and on about how I needed more and more to fulfill my insatiable appetite. I lied 100% of the time to 100% of the people. Lying is the native language of porn stars because they can’t afford to tell you the truth. Not only would it ruin the fantasy for their fans but more importantly, it would ruin the amount of their paychecks. Don’t believe porn actresses when they proudly proclaim they enjoy making porn movies. They’re ACTING.
Furthermore, many porn actresses admit they’ve experienced sexual abuse, physical abuse, verbal abuse and neglect by parents which ultimately led them to the porn industry. Some were raped or physcially abused by relatives and molested by neighbors or were teenage runaways. I have yet to meet a porn star that doesn’t have either physical or sexual abuse in her background.
Porn is NOT glamourous.
Porn is virtually everywhere on earth. It affects everyone. No matter where you go, it’ll be in your path. It will reach you through its TV networks, pay-per-view movies on cable and satellite, Internet Web sites, in-room hotel movies, phone sex, peep shows, and magazines.
But Shelley Lubben will be there too, right in porn’s face exposing its ugly naked truth and offering a message of hope to those who want out of the trap of porn.
About Shelley Lubben:
Shelley Lubben, passionate activist and speaker, married to Garrett Lubben and mother of three beautiful daughters, has a powerful story of transformation and recovery. Involved in the adult film industry in the 90’s as “Roxy”, Shelley has been totally transformed by the power of God through Jesus Christ and now shares her story in prisons, rescue missions, churches, tv, radio, film and on the web at www.shelleylubben.com. She has been a guest on a wide variety of Talk Shows ranging from Dr. Phil to VH1.
Shelley is currently pursuing a Bachelor’s of Theology degree at Vision International University in California and is near completion. Shelley has attended Pierce College in Tacoma Washington for her general academics, Wisdom For Life Leadership School in Tacoma Washington and Harvestime International Bible College where she received a Christian Workers Certificate in Biblical Studies in 2003. Shelley majors in Theology and minors in Creative Writing. Shelley is also the president of the Pink Cross Foundation which is a non-profit organization that reaches out to porn stars and sex workers to help them rebuild their lives as well as helping those who struggle with porn addiction and other sexual trauma. She enjoys writing, web design, counseling others and is extremely involved in social and activism work.
Shelley speaks on topics such as the effects of prostitution and pornography, the truth behind the porn industry, how to overcome pornography addiction, the risks and effects of prostitution, sexual abuse, recovery for sex workers, and many other topics to include Christianity, Theology and more.
